Changing my auto perception , changes the way people see me

And as we continue on this subject…

As you begin to change the perspective of yourself, thru self-help books, psychology, and spirituality, notice how the way people treat you on the streets change too. You project what ever thought about yourself you have onto others, and reinforce whatever distortional view they have on homosexuality or whatever other characteristic you may have that may make you a target for public opinion (almost any and every trait will do). You must search within yourself how do you feel with yourself, what do you like or dislike and how can you change that. Yes I am referring to homophobia now, but this may be applied to everything else, every other “thing” that you feel makes you “different”, aloof from the rest. Where do I start? You may ask, well first search yourself, your insides, your dreams, your nightmares and most importantly, observe whenever you dislike something that another person does;

What characteristic in a person you most dread?

This usually opens the door to your, as Jung would say, “Shadow”. Or as the great wise book A Course in Miracles says: “Your brother is the mirror in which you see the image of yourself”.

Once you identify these traits or faults in yourself (that only you know and feel as faults) and feel they must be changed or healed, look then for a way to work towards that. Go to a bookstore, the one that makes you feel more comfortable in, and let yourself be guided towards a section, a bookshelf, and ultimately a book. Let the book choose you…

And walk into a healing period, acceptance, loving yourself place where you no longer feel hunted with thoughts of self hate, self recrimination, anger, regret. Do whatever you need to do to feel better with yourself. If a book doesn’t cut it, look for a healer, a church, a place, a doctor, you will know just allow yourself to feel what is it that you need to heal.

I will guarantee you, when you start doing these changes within yourself, people around you will act differently, will accept differently. Your family will change around you, will accept and feel more at ease, they will invite your partner over. All of this, because your perspective changed, because you love and accept you for who you are: a perfect human being, as perfect as a sunset on the beach, as perfect as taste of chocolate in your mouth (if you like chocolate…because if you don’t I just ruined this for you!)

Not to sound so cliché, I am talking about this because I live it, day to day, I will write more about myself and my experience in coming hubs.

Being yourself, loving you, no judgments, and no worries. People will act as normal around you as comfortable you feel around you too.

Try it! What is there to loose?